tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post6888907724178154086..comments2023-10-19T09:53:38.101-07:00Comments on AmpuTeeHee: an entirely different post than what i had planned for today.MsAmpuTeeHeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733762919331458954noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-69642335935735587112011-10-26T09:25:46.443-07:002011-10-26T09:25:46.443-07:00You can read all you want and you'll get a few...You can read all you want and you'll get a few really good pointers here and there, but the kid will always throw you a curve ball. Just remember, he's not a textbook kid and you are not a textbook mother. No one is - we are all individuals and that's what makes us so awesome. Even though we screw up. :)<br /><br />I read a lot on the internet just wandering from site to site.<br /><br />Some things will be easier to deal with than others and you will want to bang your head on the wall a lot. I suggest a good sturdy bike helmet.<br /><br />Good Luck Mom! :)~Donna~https://www.blogger.com/profile/03688151596923812214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-9270053088178891102011-10-26T08:09:58.877-07:002011-10-26T08:09:58.877-07:00Good luck! I raised two but felt like I was beati...Good luck! I raised two but felt like I was beating my head against the wall the whole time. Close supervision is the only way--teenagers have no maturity at all and will tell you anything. After my daughter was grown, she called to tell me thank you. I guess that's all you can ask for.Ruth Spearsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-2435473180737986462011-10-26T07:50:40.043-07:002011-10-26T07:50:40.043-07:00I love Mike Riera's pragmatic approach to pare...I love Mike Riera's pragmatic approach to parenting teens. His "Uncommon Sense for Patents and Teenagers" was an enormous help for me. He also has a book "Surviving High School" which I haven't read but might be just the thing you need right now.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13573092914876160016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-25805729236915974632011-10-26T02:54:10.066-07:002011-10-26T02:54:10.066-07:00And this kid is how old?
Teenagers have to push b...And this kid is how old?<br /><br />Teenagers have to push back at boundaries -- it's developmentally required.<br /><br />Teenagers MUST experience failure of several kinds. Parents can postpone it, can monitor and manage them into success ... but if a parent is too good at that, all that happens is that the first failures are bigger and more lasting because they happen in the adult arena.<br /><br />To be perfectly honest, this sounds like you are exactly on track as a parent. Really, kudos to you for doing it so well.<br /><br />1. The kid made some mistakes early in the semester.<br /><br />2. You caught on right away, got him some cleanup assistance, set his feet on the path again, monitored again.<br /><br />3. He ASKED for the chance to prove himself.<br /><br />4. You agreed, honoring his choices and supporting his growing responsibility.<br /><br />5. He made some more mistakes. He even lied about it (likely trying to give himself more room to correct them, though there are other less savory possibilities).<br /><br />6. Here it is not even November and you've already caught on, found out about both the skipped homework and the lies. You are presently contemplating what steps to take, not just 'reacting'.<br /><br />So from my perspective, this is excellent parenting. The kid got a chance to practice, you and the kid have made some important discoveries, and it's still early enough to catch up. BRAVO!Maggienoreply@blogger.com