tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post7283758295439064069..comments2023-10-19T09:53:38.101-07:00Comments on AmpuTeeHee: vintage me. and dad.MsAmpuTeeHeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733762919331458954noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-45978099736566962842011-06-06T08:53:10.505-07:002011-06-06T08:53:10.505-07:00Many HUGS to you and your Mom. Hope this moment pa...Many HUGS to you and your Mom. Hope this moment passes quickly and he can get back to being the man you know.<br /><br />When my Grandmother was recovering from bypass surgery and staying at our house, she said her Corn Flakes were telling her that we were all trying to kill her. Gee thanks, Tony the Tiger!~Donna~https://www.blogger.com/profile/03688151596923812214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-83520541750113388652011-06-05T07:37:32.222-07:002011-06-05T07:37:32.222-07:00But... House says it's NEVER lupus!
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OK, s...But... House says it's NEVER lupus!<br /><br />--<br /><br />OK, seriously.<br /><br />I want to tell you a story and at first it's going to sound like it's all about me, but what I'm really trying to say is that you're not alone.<br /><br />My father died a few years ago, and his brother (my only uncle) really stepped up to the plate as far as doing and saying to me all the things a father would have. We live in the same city, and even though he travels a lot, he is there for me whenever I need him, just like a father would be. We've always been close, but after my dad died... well, I just can't, don't want to, imagine Unca Joe not being there as well. <br /><br />About two years ago this fall, he was travelling and became ill enough to become hospitalized in this city far away. The first few days after emergency surgery were really rough. The only other time he'd been in a hospital was after getting shot to hell in Vietnam, and apparently with all the drug fog, that's where he thought he still was. After two days of him ripping everything out of his arms and trying to walk out (butt hanging out of hospital gown and everything), they put him in restraints. This was really hard to see - it hurt me in my heart, you know? Such a gentle man? - but overall it was best for him... except he kept trying to get out of the restraints. Moving would have likely killed him, so they wound up putting him in a medically induced coma. This went on for about a month... followed by almost three months of slow rehabilitation before he could come back home.<br /><br />He has no memory of trying to rip out his tubes and escape. He has no memory of trying to get out of the restraints. He has no memory of the things he said and did those first couple of months after surgery. But he has a photo that my aunt took, of him hooked up to every machine possible, and arms in restraints, tied to the bed. Every once and a while he'll take it out and show it to me, and ask me if it was as bad as it looks like it was. <br /><br />I think your father being able to come back later and read these posts is going to be really important to him. I think, in love, it's important to show all the things you feel with someone, even frustration -- after all, we love people BECAUSE of who they are, not IN SPITE of what they are, right? I think it's important for your father to know how you feel, and what he might not remember. To know that you love him? To know that you and your mother, while frustrated, are by his side? That's really powerful.<br /><br />Love you, lady. Get some hugs. Give some, too.Lorenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12156097768835940764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-13515197897920486972011-06-04T10:11:09.283-07:002011-06-04T10:11:09.283-07:00Gor bless ye, woman, for sticking in there while t...Gor bless ye, woman, for sticking in there while the illness robs your father of his good senses. As for any possible post-recuperative discoveries by your father of his offensive/self-injurious behavior, well...I would really like to find out what-all I've done during several grand mal seizures to piss off the staff so royally, and scare my friends. Some certitude would be nice, if only to reassure me that I didn't disgrace myself with churlish language applied lavishly to those charged with my care. Gulp!Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11137741271840416612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-38526051760905057392011-06-04T09:13:21.512-07:002011-06-04T09:13:21.512-07:00Sending prayers, good thoughts and spare karma you...Sending prayers, good thoughts and spare karma your way!thestashattackedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18378134397874304086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-31586903431403327842011-06-04T06:57:07.332-07:002011-06-04T06:57:07.332-07:00So frustrating to add dealing with the sundowning ...So frustrating to add dealing with the sundowning on top of worrying about whatever is actually wrong. Been there and have no good advice - just sympathy for you and your mom. No fun.painting with firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01578014572547587329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-71921474277881119912011-06-04T06:49:19.680-07:002011-06-04T06:49:19.680-07:00I hope they find an answer soon and all of you can...I hope they find an answer soon and all of you can begin to recover. Love, light and prayers for you and yours.Peppermint Mocha Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08019519527269378783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16232845.post-11652450961607703502011-06-04T05:58:23.782-07:002011-06-04T05:58:23.782-07:00Much sympathy. Drug-induced is right. I saw the ...Much sympathy. Drug-induced is right. I saw the same thing with my dad. <br /><br />Don't take it personally. But it's hard to watch, and hard to live through. My secret fear with MY dad was that he wouldn't come out of it and be his old self again.<br /><br />But he did. I hope yours will too!Janice in GAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642298460152468319noreply@blogger.com