Tuesday, April 07, 2009

input. go for it.

Alright. I am soliciting your advice.

I know I am not the only person here feeling like there aren't enough hours in the day, and that life on this modern planet feels more sped up, and single parenting is rough, and blah blah blah.

But I have done everything I know to do to make my life feel less hectic, and it feels like none of it works.

I have stopped overbooking myself.
I leave time in my schedule for myself.
I (on most occasions) leave early for where I need to be so I don't feel rushed in getting there.
I leave ample extra pockets of time in my schedule for those little bombs that we all know are just bound to be dropped.

It still never works out! The little bombs that get dropped are bigger time suckers that the extra pockets I had built in, and then I am still....well....f#%$ed. Daily. And I'm sick of it.

Is there something I am forgetting to do, people? Is there a trick? If there is, do you know what it is? Was I supposed to make a sacrificial offering to the time gods? And I am supposed to laugh off the things that crop up and refuse to deal with them? HOW does this work???!!!!!!!!

If you know? I want to know.

8 comments:

Helen said...

If you find out, will you share?

I live on my own, I have no kids, only one semi-detached cat, and there are still not enough hours. I wondered if winning the Lottery might be the cure (i.e. not having to work for a living)but I'm not convinced...

Carol said...

I just remarked to Tom that I am sick of feeling like it only takes 1 thing unexpectedly happening or going wrong to knock over the first domino, and then --- they are all knocked over and I am behind and stresed and frantic.

I haven't even got as far as the first steps you mentioned, so I am no help whatsoever.

Except to send hugs.

Lynne said...

I've been a single mom now for 17 1/2 years - my best advice is to go with the flow and lower your standards :) - oh and ASK for help when you need it!

Shrinky Inky said...

I don't have kids, and I would guess that's a big part of scheduling changes. But I would identify what the majority of these "bombs" are (an average type more or less) and then add that to your planning. Lynne's idea of asking for help is a HUGE important thing. Having a network of people you can count on to help - babysitters, animal watchers, someone to just pick up slack.

You can do it - you've come a long way already!

Janice in GA said...

At the risk of sounding stupid and simplistic, the only thing I can think of is to relax into what's happening. As long as you perception is that your life is busy and out of control, it becomes more and more busy and out of control.

Breathe deep, relax, and remember that "any time is some time, and some time is enough time."

I try to remember to do this myself, because I stress REALLY easily. Every now and then I succeed, sometimes for as long as 30 seconds at a time. :) But I keep trying.

If you can't change your external circumstances, it may be possible to change your internal attitude.

I apologize if this sounds glib. It really is something I try to remember. So much of how I feel isn't dependent on the external circumstances I face as it is on the attitude I bring to those circumstances. I struggle with it, because I tend to be depressed and gloomy by nature. But when I stop fighting and stressing over stuff, somehow things often get a little easier, even though the external circumstances haven't changed.

It's a work in progress for me.

(Sorry for the teal deer.)

~Donna~ said...

I try to go with the flow. Accept the changes and new additions. And I have no problem letting other things go by the wayside. That is until they all come due or are really needing to be done - then I panic. :)

In other words, I don't have the answer either.

Oh, and when I'm not working anymore this summer? I"m sure it'll ony get worse, cos you know, I'll have all the time in the world to do stuff and there still won't be enough time in the day to do it.

Sigh.

Anonymous said...

I thought I commented yesterday. Did I flunk 'moderation'? or make some technical mistake?

What I wanted to share:

In addition to what others have said, this one also works for me.

I invoke Time as an Ally. I ground and center myself (easier in the morning or evening than in the thick of the day) and then I ask Time to please Be On My Side today. I ask that Time let there be enough Time in my experience today. Sometimes I ask Time to please not be 'short' today.

At the end of the day (or the next day, if we have this conversation at night) I say thank you.

Sometimes this works so amazingly that I can accomplish what feels like a week's work in a day. I won't try to explain why it works.

samiraalthores said...

I have all the time in the world. Everything that needs to be done, will be done.